Love yourself, modifying your lifestyle.
Female, 30's, divorced, from America.
The second chance.
I guess the biggest change in my life was when I got married.
Well, actually when I got divorced, three months after I noticed that my husband had another woman. Split up was not a hard decision to make, I was so angry. But suddenly, I was divorced, I was 28 years old and I was divorced!
I had been so obsessed with being perfect all my life, and now for the first time I was not, and I would never be perfect again… and that felt so good! Don´t get me wrong, I do not recommend divorce, and I did not experience happiness with all the mess I lived… but happiness came after, a kind of happiness I never thought I could experience. Of course the other part was there, the rejection, the sadness, the loneliness.
I was not the first not the last person to get a divorce (or a “so soon divorce person”), but in my family I was. None of my cousins or friends were divorced, many didn´t understand it, many judged me, the way I would have judged them, I guess. In any case, nothing stopped me from getting apart from that death relationship. I have to admit that I also got lots of support from my beloved ones, my colleges at work and new people that were just there when all this big change happened.
After imperfection took place in my life I was motivated to do whatever I wanted, I had the courage to left a very good paid job and position, to live my dream and go abroad and live in a different country. I can´t tell you how many interesting people I met during this time, how many wonderful places I visited and how many beautiful memories I collected. Until now, my life trip has been simply amazing,
I know now for sure that this experience came in to my life to wake me up, and to put everything else in their place.
And love? Well, after I got divorced I thought I was destined to be alone forever, that love had abandoned me, that my love life was over. But the truth is I have had more dates since I got divorced than ever before! And I felt in love again. I guess love is really everywhere, once you decide it is like that, and once you have learnt not to repeat the same mistakes over and over again, which is a very difficult thing to do.
So this was my big change, hopefully not many people have to experience such a huge challenge, but I understand many other people have experienced worst. Mine was perfect for me.
I heard once that life starts when you are 28… I have to say, for me it has been just like that!
